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Dear Eric: All my life, I have taken pride in being the peacekeeper, the one who smooths over tension, avoids conflict and tries to make sure everyone feels heard. I have always believed that kindness ...

Many people come to therapy because they can’t seem to put themselves first in their romantic relationship. They say things like: “I need to make them happy, otherwise they won’t want to be with me.” ...

It’s only a matter of time before a life-long people pleaser wakes up and cries, “Enough is enough!” Instead of going with the flow to be as nice as possible, there’s often a tipping point when you ...

One of the biggest dilemmas for us Caretakers is our tendency to be passive. And we have a lot of beliefs that really reinforce that passivity, such as: Always be nice, don’t ever hurt anyone else’s ...

In the workplace, we all run into conflict. Many of us would love to speak up and assert ourselves to correct it. And, in a perfect world, it would be easy. You could finally tell that colleague who ...